Dear Soon 2B 3rd Wife/Future Ex-Wife #3

First things first, it took me awhile to decide how I should address you in this letter.  Having never met you or spoken to you I wasn’t sure just how to phrase it since you are currently engaged to Sperm Donor #1, I assume you will be his wife eventually, which would make you his 3rd wife and well, in all honesty, given his track record, I think it is also safe to assume you will be Ex-Wife #3 in the future as well and I just wanted to make sure I cover all my bases.

Anyway, lets get back to why I am writing this letter to you.

Recently it has been brought to my attention that you have quite a few things to say about me.  Again, let me remind you that we have never met nor have we ever uttered a word to one another.  For a person who has never had the pleasure of meeting me and getting to know me you sure think you know just what kind of person and mother I am.

First things firsts, let’s address the part in which you claim I call Sperm Donor #1 constantly.  In the past year, I have called him for not showing up in court and in regard to a notice I received about his being so far behind in child support with me that he was facing felony charges and just thought I would be nice and give him a heads up.  Now I am thinking maybe I should have been a bitch like you claim I am and let his ass go to jail.

There is also the part in which you called me rude, a liar and said that I say things to my children that any “Good Mother” would not say. Again, I would like to know exactly when you have heard me address my children because once again, we have NEVER met or spoken to each other.

Now on to what has become a very interesting topic for you to discuss with members of Sperm Donor #1’s family.  I have never denied Sperm Donor #1 a visit with MY child unless it was at the request of MY child.  It is not my fault that Sperm Donor #1 let MY child down so many times that it caused MY child to wish to sever ties with him.  Also, I have NEVER told MY child that he could not contact Sperm Donor #1, he has made the decision on his own not to have contact with him.  If you would have ever met MY child, you would see that he is a very intelligent, well-rounded and mature child who is capable of making this decision on his own.  No one has forced him to make this decision, it is something he chose on his own and it is a decision that I will completely support 100% because Sperm Donor #1 has done nothing but lie, make excuses, break promises and cause my child heartache and pain.

I would also like to inform you that Sperm Donor #1 DOES NOT have any visitation rights with MY child.  All rights were severed in court on July 13th 2010 when the court commissioner informed him that he didn’t use his visitation when he had it, therefore he lost it and it was then decided by the court that any visitation between MY child and Sperm Donor #1 was at MY discretion and that of MY child.

And for the record, MY child is NOT afraid of me.  We have a great relationship and always have.  But then again, you wouldn’t know that because you have never met either of us.

As far as child support is concerned, I would like to let you know once again that the only time I ever contacted Sperm Donor #1 in regard to child support ( or should I say, lack thereof ), it was to inform him he was facing a felony conviction for not having paid support in almost 4 months.  Magically, once I left him a message about this less than 2 weeks later I received payment in full for everything he was behind.  I am not new to the Wisconsin Child Support system and I understand the WISCTF is responsible for disbursing the funds to me however in order for them to be able to disburse funds to me, that would be that Sperm Donor #1 would need to:

A. Have a job.

B. Report to his employer upon hire that he is responsible for paying child support.

C. Update his employment information with the state of Wisconsin.

D. Make payments to WISCTF to be disbursed to me.

These are things that Sperm Donor #1 has never been able to comprehend.  The only time he was ever on time and always current with his child support was during his first marriage and that was only because the Awesome First Ex-Wife made sure it was always taken care of because she understood that the money wasn’t for me, it was to help support MY child.

As for you stating, and I quote….

VERY sad when a child wants to see their dad, and meet their fiance, and kids and is to scared to say so

I thought you would be interested to know that MY child has absolutely no desire to meet you or your children.  The way he sees it you are just another girl with kids that won’t be around very long because that is what Sperm Donor #1 has led him to believe based on past experiences.  MY child has watched Sperm Donor #1 destroy 2 marriages and countless relationships and I can understand completely why he has zero interest in meeting you, your children or getting to know you.

If you were to meet my child, you would see that he does NOT refer to Sperm Donor #1 as his dad, father, etc.  He refers to him by his first name and considers my husband to be his Dad.  You see, for the last 5 almost 6 years, my husband has been there for MY child.  He is the one who keeps a roof over his head, food in his mouth, clothes on his back.  My husband is also the one who makes sure that MY child has health insurance, cares for him when he is sick, attends school functions and everything else that a real dad does.  Just because Sperm Donor #1 helped to create MY child that does not, by any means make him a real dad or a father and to be quite honest, he has never really taken on the role, he has simply let whatever woman is in his life at the time be the one responsible for looking after MY child while in his care.

So, next time, before you decide to talk about me as if you have known me for years I strongly suggest you get your story straight.  I can only imagine the things Sperm Donor #1 has filled your head with because that is what he does.  He tells stories to make himself look like the poor victim when there are 3 innocent kids who are the actual victims.  I am just thankful that these children have strong male role models to look up to and help raise them.

If you have anything else that you would like to say about me, I would love it if you could say it to me and address me directly.  Please feel free to send me an email any time at annegyounger@gmail.com or just ask Sperm Donor #1 for my phone number.  I would love to set the record straight and paint a clear picture for you!

Thanks,

Anne

P.S. Could you be a doll and let him know that he currently owes me $878.71 in child support, I would really appreciate it!