Okay, there you are in your mind everything is fine. After all, you’ve been in a committed relationship with the same woman for nearly a whole year now. For you, that’s a record. Imagine your shock, your incredulous jaw-dropping surprise when the woman that was fast becoming the love of your life suddenly serves you with the bone-chilling words, “we need to talk.”
For any guy who has heard those words uttered at him before, you know full well what that means. It is the entree for splitsville. So, there you are sad, confused, and alone. What could have possibly brought you to this point? Everything seemed so honkey-dorey just a few hours before, how the hell could this happen? Surely your new scent of cologne couldn’t have had precipitated this whole calamity or could it?
Of course, it wasn’t your cologne. Women end relationships for a variety of reasons. Some have merit, others do not. In other words, sometimes you’re to blame and other times you are just an innocent pawn. To help spare you, our brethren, from the heart-crushing pain that comes when that woman who you gladly sacrificed your video game playing time to spend time watching romantic comedies on Netflix with her, we prepared the following list. It consists of the top five reasons women end a relationship. This way, maybe you will not be caught off-guard next time.
Okay, if you need to grab some tissues to wipe the tears from your eyes because of the “high pollen count” in the air, do it now. We wouldn’t want you to miss out on any portion of the list.
1. Long Distance Romance
A long-distance romance will always have a few points racked up against it from the start. No matter how advanced our technology, video calls, and texting are no substitute for face to face (and body to body) contact. It is difficult to keep the flames of passion burning hot when you are not able to see each other in person for long periods of time.It is not uncommon for a woman, no matter how much potential she saw in you earlier, to be wooed by another man who is geographically closer to her. The “friend” from work, the dashing young stud that she casually met while ordering coffee , yes, these encounters with others which would otherwise be but mere distractions never to be acted upon, suddenly become more appealing. For some women, this is a conscious decision. After all, you’re hundreds of miles away and he is just feet or inches away. For others, it is more subconscious. This other man begins to slowly seep into her heart. Before she knows it she has feelings for him and well, you know what happens next.
2. She’s Just Unfaithful
Men are stereotypically labeled as being the “dogs.” The ones who are always on the prowl for some action on the side. Well, guess what? While some men are that way, some women are too. Otherwise adult hookup sites would have a hard time balancing their ratios.
Don’t worry, we will not devolve into becoming a lurid article bad-mouthing women. Hey, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander, right? However, if you notice that your girlfriend is frequently finding the slightest excuse to be away from you. If you notice a sudden increase in messages or calls that she receives which she does her best to actively or passively hide from you , then you might have a chronic cheater on your hands. Chances are that sooner, rather than later, she will cross you completely and dump you.Is that right? The purist of answers would be, “no.” However, should you of had seen it coming? The answer there is, “yes.” It is usually best to avoid entering into a serious relationship with such a woman right off the bat.
3. Friends and Family Know “Best”
In your circles, you are top notch. You make a decent income, you have a promising future ahead of you, some even consider you to be good-looking. Unfortunately, for a variety of reasons, you may rub your girlfriend’s mother, father, siblings or friends the wrong way.
Regardless of what they use as the foundation for their dislike of you, the dislike exists and it is profound. For most women, such negative comments about the man they are dating , even when it comes from those so close to her are cast aside. For a few, however, they take these comments way too much to heart. They either begin to allow themselves to be convinced by the unsubstantiated criticism that her inner circle has of you, or worse even though she knows it to be untrue, she sides with her family to avoid disharmony. In other words, it’s her family over you, dude.
4. Going in Different Directions
It is not uncommon for a man to think everything is going fine in a relationship when in fact a storm has been brewing for quite a while. As a matter of fact, diverging life paths is the most common reason given by a woman when ending a relationship amicably.
We would like to believe that most of the time this is based on fact. The both of you may be heading in different directions professionally, you may have different goals in life, your ideologies may be too distant to be bridged, etc. However, other times it is just used as a blanket “catch-all” excuse to end a relationship. Usually, because she has found someone else, has gotten bored with you, or just wants time to herself.
5. It’s Your Bad, Dude
If you committed one of the deadly sins of dating. Especially if it involved cheating, constantly lying or uncontrolled anger issues then you should not be surprised if she leaves you. To be honest, under those circumstances, she deserves better and you deserve what you get.
In the End, It’s Not the End of the World
Getting dumped is not the end of the world. It is never pleasant, but it should always be seen as an opportunity for a fresh start. While at first those words may sound like pure bulsh*t, you know that they are true. Even so, it is not a bad idea to be aware of why women end relationships. Not so much to “predict” your next breakup. Hell, who plans a “next breakup,” right? Instead, see it as a proactive way to spot potential problems and points of friction early. Some relationships are worth salvaging but require action as early as possible on your part.