I’d like to take a moment and get a few things off my chest.
As I sat at home tonight (like I always do) and spent A LOT of time cleaning, I was also spending A LOT of time thinking.
This thinking I did pissed me off.
It made me realize there are too many things that I am pissed about that I haven’t expressed to the free world and I have decided to do so now.
As I was scrubbing down the breakfast bar @ 4am it made me think about the kids and their breakfast/lunch account at school. From there I began to think about just how fucking easy Sperm Donor #1 and Sperm Donor #2 have it and how absolutely AMAZING Alex is.
See, here’s is how I looked at things:
Alex is the main source of income in our home (I receive child support but really how do you put a price on supporting your kids?)
Alex has medical, dental and vision insurance on every member of this family.
Alex has been there on the 1st day of school since 2006 for Zack & the Libby. (That’s 4 first days!)
Alex is always by my side when it comes to helping Zack & the Libby with homework and other school tasks.
Alex has been to every school play, musical or other performance since joining our family.
Alex has been to every parent/teacher conference with me.
Alex attends every baseball, soccer and football game as long as his work schedule allows and we don’t have 2 things going on at once. Should that be the case, we text updates back and forth.
Alex will be there for everything we have coming up such as dance recitals, tae kwon do, cheer camp etcetera.
Alex is there for the kids when someone gets hurt, is upset, wants 1 on 1 time, to tuck them into bed, to read a story and to hug & kiss them goodnight.
Alex keeps a roof over our heads, food in our fridge, light & heat in our house, money in the breakfast/lunch accounts and so many more things that I could list for days.
So, there is a very, very brief glimpse at what Alex does for our family and my 2 oldest children that are not biologically his.
Now, lets take a glimpse at what Zack’s biological father does for him:
Pays child support (again, how do you put a price on supporting your kid?)
Sees his son maybe a total of 4 days a month—-as of today, he hasn’t seen him since August 9th.
Ummmmmm……help me out here cause I’ve got nothing else.
He doesn’t attend school events, sporting events, insure his child, help with any school or extracurricular costs.
Nope….I think that what I have listed is all that he does.
Moving on to the Libby’s Sperm Donor (#2)…..he is not worthy of listing that fat her (yes, that is an intentional typo) word in any mention of him.
Again, he pays child support (do I really need to remind you that you cannot put a price on something like this? You never know how much it will cost to support a kid!)
Oh wait—–that’s it. That’s all he does.
He does not do a damn thing for my daughter. Yes, let me say that again—– MY DAUGHTER!!!
Now, let me ask you a few things:
1. Do you think I have every right to be pissed off?
2. Who do you think is the better male role model for my kids?
3. Wouldn’t you agree that my Alex is an absolutely amazing and incredible man and I am probably one of the luckiest girls in the whole universe?
Let me know your thoughts!
**Just to clarify, the intentions of this post were not to be taken as my wanting Sperm Donor #1 & Sperm Donor #2 to see their children more or actually attend the aforementioned events. The intent of this post was to prove that 1. You cannot put a price tag on what it costs to support a child ie: 17% and 2. That Zack & Libby and I are INCREDIBLY lucky to have Alex as part of our family and that he has been more of a father to my children then Sperm Donor #1 & Sperm Donor #2 HAS EVER BEEN!!!